How to Understand Parenting Styles To Transform Your Child into an Angel
Raising a child should come with a guidebook, because Parenting can seem overwhelming at times. You’ve learned countless things through trial and error, and numerous behavioral problems arise that you feel helpless to prevent.
But don’t worry—you can take definite steps today to solve your child’s behavioral problems.
In this article, you will discover that you can improve your child’s unruly behavior. First, you will learn about the four basic elements that make up parenting styles. Second, we will discuss the four primary parenting styles.
Third, you will learn which skills you must know to improve your child’s conduct. And finally you will find a unique resource containing step-by-step methods to accomplish your goals.
Four Basic Elements Define Parenting Styles
Child development researcher Diana Baumrind published a series of studies which concluded that there are four main elements that define parenting styles: responsiveness, unresponsiveness, demanding, and undemanding.
Responsiveness and unresponsiveness are measured by the attention that parents pay to the needs, wants, and emotions of the child. A parent that takes a keen interest in what the child expresses to them is responsive. On the flip side, parents that dismiss a child’s need for attention are considered unresponsive.
Demanding parents set high expectations for their children, and attempt to guide or even force them to follow the parents’ sets of rules and tell their children when they are not living up to those expectations. Undemanding parents, on the other hand, will often let their children do whatever they want without much guidance or even care for what they’re doing.
These Four Basic Elements Combine to Create Four Primary Parenting Styles.
Researchers E.E. Maccoby and J.A. Martin published a study in 1983 (Socialization in the context of the family: Parent–child interaction) detailing the four primary parenting styles. In this study, they combined the four basic elements to create four primary parenting styles.
These four parenting styles are authoritative parenting, authoritarian parenting, indulgent parenting, and neglectful parenting.
Authoritative parenting styles
A parent who implements the authoritative parenting style combines the basic elements of being demanding and responsive.
Experts consider this to be the most effective form of parenting. The parent considers the child’s feelings and problems above all else, and guides their child to make their own choices and solve their own problems. They do this in a way that lays out boundaries for their child, but allows their child much freedom and independence to create their own path in life.
The authoritative parent will expect a certain level of maturity and age-appropriate behavior from their children. If a child steps outside of these expectations, the parent will discuss the problem with the child and let the child know what they’ve done wrong on Esmokeking. Typically, the parent will not punish the child.
As stated above, experts believe the authoritative style is the best of the parenting styles to adopt. Children tend to develop higher self-esteem and independence, and this will carry over into their adult life. We will revisit this parenting style later in this article.
Authoritarian parenting styles
Parents who adopt this parenting style are demanding of their children, but not particularly responsive to their children’s needs and concerns.
These parents have high expectations for their children to conform to a rigid set of rules of behavior. When their children violate these rules, the parents are extremely strict and punish the children, most often without any discussion. Generally, the parents won’t listen to or try to understand their child’s point of view.
The authoritarian parent likes to remain firmly in control and rarely lets their children make his or her own decisions. Children raised under this kind of control often have less social ability. They are also more likely to experience a nervous breakdown, become runaways, or otherwise rebel against their parents.
Indulgent parenting styles
This type of parent is responsive to the emotions of their child but is not demanding.
Indulgent parents are exceedingly lenient and do not set behavioral expectations. Their children often become spoiled brats, as they most often get what they want. If their parents always give them whatever they want, they will expect others to do the same. Because of this, they can become impulsive and in their teen years even reckless. They are more likely to become drug users and thrill seekers.
Neglectful parenting styles
A parent who is neglectful is neither demanding nor responsive.
The worst of the four primary parenting styles, neglectful parenting sees a parent who doesn’t pay any attention to their children. At the same time, this parent will let their children do whatever they want without any guidelines to follow.
These parents don’t show much affection for their children and are not involved with their child’s life. They don’t take their child’s emotions and wants into account, and the child usually feels unwanted. Often, children with this type of parents will force themselves to become independent, as they cannot depend upon their parents.
This has a substantial impact later in life: they may have considerable difficulty with social situations and become delinquents.
Parenting skills you must learn to ensure your child grows up happy and successful
Now that you are familiar with the four primary parenting styles, you can use this information to develop a responsible parenting philosophy. As you learned earlier, experts agree that the best of these parenting styles is the authoritative model. Let’s look more closely to discover the skills you need to learn in order to implement this style effectively.
Defining your goals
First, let’s define your goals. You want a system that will stop your child’s misbehavior, reduce their defiance to you, and improve the way they follow your directions. This will reduce their tantrums, unwanted aggression, and inclination to argue. Doesn’t that sound like it will reduce your stress level and at the same time make your children happier?
How to accomplish these goals
Using the authoritative parenting style as a model, you can see that you should become more responsive to your child’s wants, emotions, and needs. At the same time, you should set expectations and rules for your child to follow.
Remember that authoritative parents usually do not resort to punishment. If the key to proper discipline is not punishment, then it must be reward, correct? Wrong! Reward is highly similar to punishment; after all, if a child misbehaves and they are not rewarded, this is exactly the same as receiving punishment. Their punishment is not receiving the reward.
So what can possibly motivate your child to be better behaved?
Yes, chemistry. Dr. Blaise Ryan, Chief Medical Advisor for the Child Brain Health Research Institute, has identified the primary cause of misbehavior in children as a hormone known as cortisol. Their bodies release this hormone during times of stress. Thus, the solution you’re looking for lies in how to control your child’s stress level.
At this point, you may be saying to yourself, “My child’s stress? What about my stress?” Well, the key is to understand that when you solve your child’s problem, that will eliminate your stress.
Here are three ways to achieve this:
- Teach your child to respect you. You can do this by being a respectable role model. Act responsibly towards your child, and give them a safe and dependable environment in which to grow up. Your child is always watching you and learning from your beliefs. They idolize you and mimic your behavior.
- Teach your child to trust you. Be extremely patient with them. Ask them what they want and what they need from you. If you make a mistake, don’t be afraid to apologize. They will understand and learn a valuable lesson at the same time.
- Show your child love and care. Give them the attention they crave. Listen to them and take what they say seriously. At the same time encourage and praise them. And try to share with them some parts of your life.
These are some straightforward things that you can do as a first step so that you and your child will communicate better and have a healthier connection. This will reduce stress levels for both you and your child.
What else can you do?
How to Master Superior Parenting Styles
Dr. Blaise Ryan has teamed up with two other highly experienced parenting authorities to develop a highly effective and proven system. This powerful system will help correct your child’s behavioral problems in a matter of days. They have published this system in an e-book called “The Happy Child Guide”.
They explain exactly why kids don’t listen to or obey their parents, and steps that you can take today to start immediately solving these problems. In this book they show you:
- the real reasons why your child misbehaves
- three potent keys to get your child to listen to and respect to you
- how to easily and naturally improve your child’s behavior
- three effortless changes that can eliminate 70% of your child’s behavioral problems
- how nutrition can help control your child’s tantrums
- a five-step process that is much more effective than any other discipline techniques to get your child to listen to you
- unusual techniques to use when your child throws a tantrum
- seven decisive steps that end unacceptable behavior permanently
What’s more, you will receive free membership to the Parent Learning Club. We all know that every child is different. You can ask detailed questions directly to Dr. Ryan if you are unsure of what to do. This will ensure you have a solution to your problem.
In this article, you learned that you can be in control of your child’s unruly behavior. We first talked about the four basic elements that make up parenting styles. We then discussed the four primary parenting styles resulting from these elements, and that the most effective of these is the authoritarian style.
In the third section, you learned about the skills you must know to implement the authoritarian style successfully. And finally you discovered a unique resource containing step-by-step methods to accomplish your goals.
By using the information you gain in this article, you can begin today to solve your child’s behavioral problems and you are able to find the right parenting styles for Your child!