shared parentingShared parenting is very common among separated or divorced couples. Despite their maternal issues, they still have an obligation and a responsibility to take care of their offspring. This arrangement is very convenient for both parties as they have the freedom to get actively involved in their children’s lives and mold them to become responsible citizen as they grow up. It may be difficult for the child to get adjusted with the situation and may not like the overall set-up from the beginning, but still, children must learn that both parents must have a shared responsibility for their own upbringing.

Shared parenting required by state

Most US States require separated couples to agree to a shared parenting child support. The State Court requests from the divorced parents to come up with a parenting plan – a custody or collaborative agreement, a shared responsibility for the benefit of the children. Each parents must have equal time with the children, divide the expenses and other needs for the children. But if a problem arises and parents are in disagreement with the plan, the State Court has no choice but to intervene and provide a parenting plan for them.

The biggest reason why there is a requirement for both parents to come up with shared parenting plans is because it lessens the burden or responsibility of the single parent who has custody over the children. In the past, mothers are entitled to have full custody of the children while the fathers only have visitation rights. But psychologists see through this problem. The mother has more burdens taking care of the children, including the added expenses from school and medical visits. Also, the children who are staying with their mothers more, lose contact with their fathers or sometimes have a strain relationship with each other.

There are different shared parenting laws as it depends on the situation and the ages of the each. For those who don’t know, children of different ages have specific needs and adapt to different developmental stages. When parents agree on a shared parenting approach, both couples should be in agree in the division of various parenting responsibilities, expenses, and so on.

Example of shared parenting

A good example is a shared parenting agreement for the infant. Babies learn to get attached themselves to their caregivers and cry easily if the face is unrecognizable. As much as possible, both parents should be there to provide, care, comfort, and have bonding time. They both should have caregiver roles so that it makes easier for the baby to identify each parent. A schedule plan must be formed so that each parent will have more time for switching while taking care of their baby. Parents should not stay away from the baby after a few days or so.

As the child grows older, another parenting plan should be created that is beneficial not only for both parents, but also for their kid. Split the amount of visitations and quality time between each parent. For instance, the child may spend one week with the father and another week for the mother. Vacations and medical expenses should also be divided as well.

Effect of shared parenting

This arrangement though, no matter how beneficial from the children, may have different impact on them as they grow older.
Parents must be prepared for the emotional trauma that their kids will be facing in the months or years to come. As they grow older, there is a chance that the child may not like to spend time with the other parent’s house anymore because he or she is not happy living there. In this case, both parents must find ways on how to ease the anxiety of their kid and provide a safer environment for their child.

The best important thing to do is for parents to explain to their children that despite these shortcomings and the unfortunate circumstances, they still love them unconditionally and will do everything what is best for their sake.

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