Conflicts and Effects of Gay and Lesbian Parenting

Conflicts and Effects of Gay and Lesbian Parenting

Discrimination starts at a young age. When young children learn that some of their peers at school were raised by gay parents, they look at their peers differently. Some even go as far as ridiculing and mocking these children who are raised by gay parents. Other kids and a few heterosexual parents could not accept the fact that gay parenting is now considered normal and allowable in the society. This dilemma will never be solved unless somebody takes a stand and encourage his peers and the rest of the society to recognize gay and lesbian parents for who they are.

Gay and Lesbian Marriages

It’s a known fact that in some states and other countries, same-sex marriages are forbidden by the society. It’s even more questionable if these same sex couples, are tolerated to having babies or adopt a child. The society often wonders how this will affect the child once he or she develops while under the roof of gay or lesbian parents. Do gays and lesbians raise their adopted child differently from heterosexual couples with biological children? How is this so? State and local governments often discuss this and argue that maybe it’s not the best for these same-sex couples to raise the child.

Gay and Lesbian Parenting Statistics

In the past, you may notice that there is a lack of lesbian and gay parenting statistics from the Census Bureau. The reason behind is that some same-sex couples are still afraid to come out and be included in the census while other states do not collect data on same-sex couples. As a result, they are grouped into the category of “unmarried partner.” Because of these protests, the Bureau is starting to make efforts to include the LGBT – the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender – and be included in the census. They started taking census for LGBT people in 2010.

Gay and Lesbian Parenting

Even with all the efforts by the LGBT people to become recognized in the society and be fully accepted for what they are, and their right to fully raise a child of their own, many people still fear with the effects of gay parenting. Conservatives and religious organizations believe that children should be raised by normal heterosexual parents to avoid getting exposed to homosexuality. They pointed out that children who are raised from gay or lesbian parenting may be the subject of ridicule, humiliation, and hatred by their peers.

Despite these arguments and opinions, there are a few success stories, told by children of gay parenting and lesbian parenting. A good example is Zach Wahls, a 19-year old University student in Iowa, who is raised by two lesbian parents. In a speech addressed to the Iowa House of Representatives, he defended gay and lesbian parents and even described his experience as a son of two lesbian couples.

“In my 19 years not once have I ever been confronted by an individual who realized independently that I was raised by a gay couple. And you know why? Because the sexual orientation of my parents has had zero effect on the content of my character,” Wahls narrated from his speech. He was also against the resolution of making same sex marriages in Iowa illegal, even adding that an upbringing from a gay or lesbian couples are exactly the same from a typical normal family in Iowa.

The issue of lesbian and gay parenting has been around for a long time. It has never been resolved and many agree that it would take a long time the society finally accepts these changes and learn to understand what these gays and lesbian couples have to go through. As early as possible, people should be educated about gay parenting within the society before they judge and form opinions about them.